One thing is undeniable: energy is real. There are sources of connection that we cannot understand, but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist. When I was 13 years old, I woke sobbing after a dream that my mother had died—the next day, we found out that my stepmother passed away overnight. It turned out, that wouldn’t be the only time I had a dream like that in my life. I don’t like labels. All I know is that I’ve experienced dreams and intuitive events that I could not have known in any other way. There is an energy that connects us. We all have intuition, of course, and I do think we’re all able to connect to something outside of ourselves. Some of us just have more experience with these intuitive events than others.
All loss is difficult—but when people die suddenly, we have to create our own closure. When we’re robbed of the opportunity to say (or hear) that “last thing,” it can make the depths of grief feel impossible to swim through.
What I love about “pulling” a tarot card to any given question, is that a physical answer is on the table. It’s harder to deny an answer when physical cards are turned up in front of us. Someone who reads tarot is simply the messenger. I don’t create the meaning of what the card states. I just convey what comes up. And often, I open a book to read from and there can be no doubt about the words on the page. After hundreds of readings, it would be impossible not to be in awe of this practice. Eerie. Mind-blowing. Unbelievable. Impossible. I’ve said them all, and often by MYSELF, as I read the upturned cards.
In the past 18 months, four dear friends of mine have lost a parter, parent, friend, and a child, to sudden, unexpected health-related deaths or accidents. When speaking with a widowed friend, it struck me—our loved one didn’t get closure, either. Anyone who has lost someone knows that this person would have wanted to say something before the end.
Many have experienced what we call a “love wink” in our family. Sometimes, after a passing, there is a moment in nature that feels surreal. Sometimes it’s a an encounter with a butterfly the morning after. Or the look from a deer. Something that felt like our loved one, and, from time to time, that love wink returns and we have a moment with that energy again.
Life is not like the movies. There isn’t some journal or envelope with a goodbye letter. There is just heartache. That’s how I hope to help. You don’t need to understand or even “believe” in tarot to get an answer. You just need to be openminded. There could be a question you want to ask—something you’re open to hear—and tarot is simply one tool to find out what that may be. We’ll sit together, it doesn’t matter if it’s in person or not, and we’ll ask some questions. You deserve a closure conversation. And, it’s possible, your loved one does, too.
If this resonates with you, it would be my honour to facilitate that conversation. While it’s never going to be the same as if your person was with you, in my experience, they will have something to communicate with you. We simply have to ask the questions.
When you’re ready, you deserve closure.
Connect with me @curiousabouttarot on social media or email me at curiousabouttarot@gmail.com, and let’s talk.
